Introduction: we are not broken -- Repairing our understanding of trauma: tading shame for science -- Malcolm's fight club: when trauma upends our view of the world -- Trauma tool: four versions of your story -- Gabe's broken heart: the truth about triggers -- Trauma tool: diaphragmatic breathing for vagal response -- Trauma tool: grounding exerciess -- Graces referred pain: there is no such thing as big-T and little-T trauma -- Trauma tool: tetris -- Max's hourglass: when loss is traumatic -- Trauma tool: what remains -- Erica's trauma bond: why we reenact traumatizing patterns -- Trauma tool: recalibrate your sphere of influence -- Trauma tool: absurd hope -- Lily's boxing match: it's never too late to heal -- Trauma tool: one hundred other things -- Finding our way home: a new understanding of trauma -- Epilogue: tiny little joys.